The state we are in determines the way we react. What do I mean by this?
The way we feel whether it’s sadness, angry, lost, upset and so on is what we call a state.
When we realize that we are in a state that’s not very helpful for us at that moment, what can we do?
The first step is realizing that we always have a choice no matter how difficult a situation is and you can choose to stay in the that state or change your state by becoming aware of it and realize that we have a choice. So how do I change a state so that I can be in a more helpful and calm way?
I collect good feelings and use it as an anchor to access when I’ve become aware my state is not helping me right now.
There are of course many different ways of changing an unhelpful state, but this is just one of them that I use when times are a bit more challenging and I feel I need to relax my mind and body.
Every time I see something I love like; for example; when I’m walking and see the beautiful light on the water and as I this I pretend that I catch it in my hand, squeeze my fist together and then give this wonderful feeling a place inside me, I do this with many things that give me pleasure, while I squeeze my fist I let the feeling that it gives me flow through me and store it in a safe place where I can access it, then when I feel low or down or whatever is not very helpful then the first thing is as always I take a deep breath and then squeeze my fist and pretend I step into that feeling, let it flow right through me and notice the feeling of joy, tranquillity and calm coming over me, breath it in and then look at the situation with new eyes and listen to it with new ears. Its called an anchor!
It’s like Dorothy from the Wizard of Oz when she stepped into the red shoes and clicked them 3 times together saying there’s no place like home, there’s no place like home, there’s no place like home and then finds herself home again.
What can you use as your anchor? A great quote I came upon; Worry, sadness or anger doesn’t solve anything it only feeds it!